Yesterday I spent six hours at our adoption agency in a training called “Coping with the Wait”. Our adoption certification was final almost a year ago, so it was a timely and helpful topic to think about.
Early in the Spring of 2011, my husband and I attended an orientation through Bethany Christian Services, where we learned about their Domestic Infant Adoption program. We had already done a lot of research and had been to an orientation with our county for foster care. Our hearts resounded with a unified, “Yes” after the Bethany orientation. We plunked down the money, took the stack of paperwork home, and with that step, began the journey toward our adopted son or daughter.
How do you wait for someone when you don’t know their arrival time? How can you prepare for an event when you have no control over its outcome?
I may not yet know the specifics, but this is what I DO know about the person I am waiting for:
: they have been purposefully created by a God who loves them.
: they are not a mistake
: they are supposed to be a part of our family
: the road to them has been terribly long and unbelievably hard
: the journey to reach them has a purpose in my life that is being fulfilled day by day
: God is with me right now as I am waiting, and is also present with the one I am waiting for
: this is not merely about my desire to parent another child, but God, in His infinite wisdom and power can use this desire in my small, human heart to fulfill His divine purposes in other lives, in the life of the child who will join our family, and in their family of origin, Lord willing, to bring about His purposes in their lives as well.
Isaiah 40:31 was shared with us yesterday during the training, and it stayed with me as we came home and went about the rest of our day. Here it is, along with a couple of other verses on waiting:
Isaiah 40:31 “But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”
Psalm 33:20 “We wait in hope for the LORD; he is our help and shield.”
Isaiah 64:4 “Since ancient times no one has heard, no ear has perceived, no eye has seen any God besides you, who acts on behalf of those who wait for him."